Living by Design, Not by Default Nonsense-Free Life in a Beautiful World Full of Crap / Maya Arenas Guerra

Język angielski – poziom B2+

Czy humanist(k)a może odnieść sukces i wieść szczęśliwe życie – a na dodatek głośno o tym mówić? Czy można być szczęśliwym i spełnionym bez codziennego wdzięczenia się w social mediach? Czy więcej warty jest glamour czy dobrostan?

„The Human(istic) Way. Living by design, not by default: Nonsense-free and fulfilling life in a beautiful world full of crap” to nietypowy poradnik samorozwojowy. Maya Arenas Guerra, polska filolożka-psycholożka, mająca „normalną” pracę i żyjąca zgodnie ze swoimi war-tościami, zaprasza do eksplorowania różnych aspektów ludzkiej egzy-stencji. W 11 dynamicznych rozdziałach zachęca do refleksji nad takimi zagadnieniami, jak zarządzanie czasem i energią, wyznaczanie celów życiowych, relacje, a także kreowanie własnej filozofii życia. Pozycja została zainspirowana dziesiątkami książek filozoficznych i psycholo-gicznych, a także wielowymiarowym życiem autorki.

„The Human(istic) Way” to poradnik nie napisany przez coacha „uczą-cego jak żyć”, nie napisany w Stanach, nie tylko dla startupowców.

Dużo humoru, dużo konkretów – ale także dużo otwartości i zachęty do radosnego eksplorowania własnej ścieżki życiowej.

The Human(istic) Way w wersji do nauki angielskiego pomoże Ci udo-skonalić swój angielski, a jednocześnie zastanowić się nad poruszany-mi zagadnieniami, takimi jak życiowe wybory, samodoskonalenie, do-brostan, relacje, finanse.

Wstęp 11

Introduction 16

About the Author 16

Cheesy (and Twisted) Acknowledgements 18

Notice to Readers 18

Structure of Th is Book 26

Chapter 0

Critical Thinking, Coaches and Going Your Way 29

0.1. Start Digging* 29

0.2. On Coaches and Quick Success 30

0.3. Th e Relationship with Your Self* 33

0.4. Autonomy and Responsibility 35

0.5. On Being a Bitch 38

0.6. Looking for Resources 40

0.7. Observe Yourself* 41

0.8. Th e Now 45

0.9. Mindfulness and Essentialism 46

0.10. Meditation and Mushin 49

Exercise 1 50

Exercise 2 50

Exercise 3 51

Chapter 1

Freedom, Responsibility and Stages of Life 53

1.1. New Year’s Resolutions and Effective Planning 53

1.2. Planning Versus Improvisation 54

1.3. Life Stages and “Success”* 55

1.4. Feel Your Path* 58

1.5. Learn, Experience, Observe 61

1.6. Change Is Constant. 62

1.7. Consequences of Being Free 64

1.8. What Being Assertive Really Means 65

1.9. Pluck Up Your Courage and Move On 66

1.10. Stop Expecting Applause 66

Exercise 1 67

Exercise 2 67

Exercise 3 68

Chapter 2

Energy and Focus Management 69

2.1. Respect Your Energetic Resources* 69

2.2. Pay Attention to What You Pay Attention to 71

2.3. Time Management Versus Energy Management 73

2.4. Do Your Dishes With a Smile 74

2.5. Priorities in Your Professional Life 74

2.6. Prioritize Your Pleasures 76

2.7. Do It Your Own Way and Take Care of Your Routine 78

2.8. Th e Power of a Nap 79

2.9. Philosophy of a Conscious Life 80

2.10. Professional Success: Seize Your Targets 81

Exercise 1 82

Exercise 2 82

Exercise 3 83

Chapter 3

Work, Play and Rest 85

3.1. Job Craft ing and Your Personal Brand 85

3.2. Broadcast Your Personal Mission Statement 86

3.3. Your Ikigai* 87

3.4. Be a Pro 88

3.5. Routine Is the Mother of Flow* 89

3.6. Goals* 91

3.7. Getting Better Th rough Change 94

3.8. It’s Just Living 95

3.9. Plan Your Rest 95

3.10. Sometimes Plan Your Entertainment 98

Exercise 1 98

Exercise 2 98

Exercise 3 99

Chapter 4

Money 101

4.1. Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness, But… 101

4.2. What Earning Money Represents to You (And Why) 101

4.3. Financial Literacy 103

4.4. Money Management 104

4.5. Getting Real: Vocation Versus Earning Decent Money* 105

4.6. Economic Goals and Saving Money 107

4.7. Value Yourself 108

4.8. Enjoy It 108

4.9. Consumerism 109

4.10. Living on Credit 110

Exercise 1 111

Exercise 2 112

Exercise 3 112

Chapter 5

How to Measure Your Worth 113

5.1. Decisions* 113

5.2. Going in Circles 115

5.3. Limiting Beliefs 115

5.4. Th e Sin of Constant Comparing 117

5.5. Observe, Observe, Observe 118

5.6. Discover What Nurtures You… And Build Habits to Stay Disciplined 118

5.7. Tiredness, Frustration and Pain 119

5.8. Just Keep Doing What You Need to Do 120

5.9. On Being Highly Selective 120

5.10. Why on Earth Should You Measure Your Worth?* 121

Exercise 1 122

Exercise 2 122

Exercise 3 122

Chapter 6

Relationships 123

6.1. Have You Figured Out What You Want? 123

6.2. Th e Basics* 124

6.3. Cut the Romantic Shit 124

6.4. Tricks, Tricks, Tricks!* 125

6.5. Unconditional Love and Other Needs* 126

6.6. Fears and Trust 127

6.7. Is Your Prospective Partner Mature Enough? 127

6.8. Next Level 128

6.9. Real Intimacy 129

6.10. How to Measure a Good Relationship? 129

Exercise 1 130

Exercise 2 130

Exercise 3 130

Chapter 7

Don’t Get Fooled 131

7.1. Recipes for Happiness* 131

7.2. We Are Professional Liars 132

7.3. Criticism and Compliments 133

7.4. Excuses 133

7.5. Unlearning 134

7.6. Your Own Bullshit and Your Shit-Burgers 134

7.7. It Might Be True… Or Not 135

7.8. Neither Fabulous nor Hopeless 135

7.9. Regrets and Mistakes 136

7.10. Living for Yourself 137

Exercise 1 137

Exercise 2 138

Exercise 3 138

Chapter 8

Anxiety and Existential Stuff 139

8.1. We Are Just Visitors* 139

8.2. Mastery of Fear 140

8.3. Death and Terror Management Theory 142

8.4. Emotional Agility 142

8.5. Emotions as Data 143

8.6. Getting Prepared 143

8.7. Crisis* 145

8.8. Amor Fati 146

8.9. Practice Being Grateful 146

8.10. Taking Care of Your Eudaimonia 147

Exercise 1 147

Exercise 2 147

Exercise 3 148

Chapter 9

Everything Is Connected 149

9.1. Don’t Live on Autopilot 149

9.2. Take Care of Yourself 149

9.3. Process Your Childhood 150

9.4. Take Care of Your Resources 150

9.5. Get Rid of Systemic Anxiety 151

9.6. Understand the Variables* 151

9.7. Do the Hard Work to Be Creative 152

9.8. Winning Is Not Enough 154

9.9. Find a Mentor or Be One 154

9.10. Enjoy Your Eudaimonia 155

Exercise 1 155

Exercise 2 155

Exercise 3 155

Chapter 10

You Need to Keep Finding Out What You Want 157

10.1. Nothing Lasts Forever* 157

10.2. Re-Inventing Yourself 158

10.3. Take Care of Your Ikigai* 158

10.4. It Has to Make Sense 159

10.5. Undoubtedly, You’ll Doubt 160

10.6. Use Your Response-Ability 161

10.7. Competition 161

10.8. Th ink Like an Entrepreneur* 162

10.9. Well-Being and Success 163

10.10. Be a Lotus* 164

Exercise 1 168

Exercise 2 169

Exercise 3 169

Some of My Inspirations 169

Glossary 171

Key to Exercises 185